ATTN: All the single ladies! 👯♀️ If there is one thing we’ve been taught by every romantic comedy, primetime sitcom, and inquisitive aunt at family gatherings, it’s that finding “The One” and getting married is the magical key to happiness and lifelong fulfillment. Even though we’ve never met a fancy white dress and big party we didn’t like, the concept of traditional coupledom being #goals isn’t quite syncing with current statistics: Almost half of American adults are unmarried, which has more than doubled since 1970, when only 17% of Americans were unmarried.
So what do our #singleAF friends know that most Meg Ryan rom coms don’t? Contrary to cultural belief, being single is actually really awesome! And finally there is lots of research to back it up. So the next time a well-meaning family member or friend asks you why you are still single, you can give them the facts.
One common misconception is that being single = being lonely, but that couldn’t be further from the truth! According to a study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, single people are more likely to maintain strong friendships and be involved in their community, as well as stay in touch with parents, siblings, and neighbors.
You also might have more time to hit the gym if you are single. According to a study in the Journal of Marriage and Family, lifelong single people are more active than those that have been married or divorced. And as far as a more bedroom-adjacent kind of physical activity is concerned, one analysis of data collected from 26,000 people showed that singles also have more sex (which is great, but even better if you alway use a condom!).
There also might be extra health benefits depending on your gender. According to a study on women’s health and marital status, the test group that reported having the best health and fewest doctor’s visit were, drum roll please, single women.
This isn’t to say that we don’t believe in true love, or that dating and marriage isn’t fun or really beneficial for a lot of people! We would just like to see a shift in cultural expectations that allow us all to live without shame in our choice to get married or stay single. In an interview with the Guardian, behavioural scientist Paul Dolan noted: “The existing narrative that marriage and children were signs of success meant that the stigma could lead some single women to feel unhappy”. But with all the benefits to being single, we think there is no reason women, or anyone of any gender, should feel bad about their choice. 🎉