I’d like to take a wild guess and bet that “long-lasting” isn’t your first thought when you hear “celebrity couple.” To be fair, it isn’t ours either! Attempting to sustain a long, healthy relationship in the public eye seems like a challenge. However, there are a few celebrity couples that have beat the odds and built a strong foundation for a healthy and happy relationship.
From not thinking of each other as “husband and wife” (or not getting married at all!) to leaving hand-written notes to show they care, these couples give us small but valuable insights on what makes their relationship stick. We’ve rounded up a list of some of our favorite long-term famous couples, but if we missed your favorite celebrity couple, add them (and their relationship advice) in the comments!
15 Years: Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
“We’re just really good friends and we talk about everything, and we never ever, ever lie to each other, like, not even the tiniest lies. And she’s the only person I want to hang out with. She is my best friend and I just want to be with her all the time,” - de Rossi on Entertainment Tonight, 2016
“Portia understands me completely. In our vows, she recited a quote — ‘It is good to be loved. It is profound to be understood’ — and to me, that’s everything. What ‘I love you’ really means is ‘I understand you,’ and she loves me for everything that I am. She supports me and makes me happy.” - DeGeneres in Good Housekeeping, 2017
22 Years: David and Victoria Beckham
"Of course you make mistakes, and we all know that marriage is difficult at times. It is about working through it. We have come up against tough times. But we know each other better than anyone else knows us. And we talk. " - David Beckham on BBC Radio 4, 2017.
“I said to David, ‘god what will we have to say to each other when it's just us?’ But we talk and laugh the whole time, and not even about the kids or work. He's better at winding me up. But hey, what a relief – we’ll be OK, even when they’ve all left home.”- Victoria Beckham in Hello Magazine, 2019
24 Years: Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith
“We don’t even say we’re married anymore. We refer to ourselves as ‘life partners,’ where you get into that space where you realize you are literally with somebody for the rest of your life. There’s no deal breakers. There’s nothing she could do—ever—nothing that would break our relationship.
She has my support ‘til death, and it feels so good to get to that space where you’re not complaining and worrying and demanding that a person be a certain thing to sort of satiate your ego deficiencies. You’re not demanding that somebody be a certain thing so you feel better about yourself.”- Smith on Rap Radar, 2018
27 Years: Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick
"I know it sounds dreary and not sexy, but I think the most important part of [a relationship] is companionship. For me, it’s about asking myself: who do I want to sit with, in Ireland? Who do I want to see those ruins with? Who is still the most challenging to me? Who do I like best?" - Parker to The Telegraph, 2016
33 Years: Oprah and Stedman Graham
“The only time I brought it up was when I said to Stedman, ‘What would have happened if we had actually gotten married?’ And the answer is: ‘We wouldn’t be together.’ We would not have stayed together, because marriage requires a different way of being in this world. His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that.” - Winfrey in Vogue, 2017
34 Years: Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson
“I view my wife as my lover, and we have a bond that goes beyond words like wife or girlfriend or mother. I can’t imagine my life without her. I often leave notes for her near the phone or somewhere in the kitchen. I wish her a good day and stuff like that. I type notes for her using the antique typewriters that I collect — I have more than a hundred. And also, I have a habit of sending a photo report of my day to Rita. I take pictures of everything around me when she is not with me: what I eat for lunch, who I meet, what I shoot. I think she likes it.” - Hanks on Oprah, 2001
36 Years: Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell
"Love, gratitude, compassion, because sometimes every man or every woman will drive their partner crazy. Family. Fun. Laughs. Sex. If you don't nurture that, and remember, you're done." -Hawn to People, 2017
"There's something psychological about not being married. Because it gives you the freedom to make decisions one way or the other. So for me, I chose to stay, Kurt chose to stay, and we like the choice. We like the choice and we chose to stay. We're always asked why we are not married. Why? What is marriage going to do for us? At the beginning, you want to see each other all the time. Then you get jealous when they’re gone too long and that’s exciting. But for a healthy, long-term relationship, then 68% of the time is good." -Hawn to People, 2017