The average woman spends over 6 years of her life on her period. Yet 74% of women report missing sex because of their period. Being visited by Aunt Flo shouldn’t be a hindrance to you and your partner’s sex life (unless you have a literal Aunt named Flo and she is visiting you. Then you should be polite and spend time with your aunt).
Having sex on your period is totally safe and orgasms have been shown to help reduce pain from cramps, meaning period sex can help you feel good in more ways than one. Also, some women feel they have an increased sex drive while on their periods. While there isn't enough research behind this to pinpoint exactly why, some researchers believe that increased pelvic congestion can cause pressure that signals arousal in the brain.
Here are some tips on how to turn your period into an exclamation point:
- Think of the blood as extra lubrication. Menstrual fluid will make intercourse feel more slippery, which is never a bad thing.
- You still need to use protection because you CAN get pregnant while menstruating. Though less likely then other times of the month, you can still get pregnant while on your period. Particularly if you have a shorter or irregular cycle and are having sex on one of the last days of your period. Even if you have a regular 28-30 day cycle, it's not worth the risk or the stress, so we recommend always using protection. Plus, if you use a condom, it makes clean-up easier.
- Worried about making a mess? Just throw down a towel: Using a dark-colored towel or an old t-shirt will help protect your bedding from leaks and stains. If things get messy and you need some clean-up help, Sustain has you covered with our post-play wipes.
- It’s the perfect time to experiment with shower / fancy bathtub sex: Then you get sex and clean-up all at once. Just be careful not to slip. Seriously. Things will get wet.
- You can still receive oral sex: In our Summer Sex Survey, 83% of respondents said they have had period sex in the past, yet only 23% said they have received oral while menstruating. Even though it may seem taboo, your partner can still go down on you, as long as you are both STD free, as certain STDs are more likely to be transmitted through blood. If your partner is grossed out my the blood, using a dental dam will prevent them from coming in direct contact with it. You can also use a menstrual cup or tampon to contain the blood inside your vagina.
In the end, you should do what you and your partner are most comfortable with, as long as it is consensual and you are both communicating your needs and desires. Because communication and education are the real secret to great sex, period. ❤️